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(Like so many pieces of laundry, morning thoughts.)

December 01 – 07,  2019

Living with Parkinson’s

Phyllis & Sam Turner ©2019

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ALOHA: Adult Loss of Hearing Association      
APDA: American Parkinson Disease Association
CH: Cynthia Holmes, Ph.D. Neurology  
DBS: Deep Brain Stimulation (much improved since Michael J. Fox!)
HS: Harvey Stanbrough Pro-writer and mentor (
MJFF: Michael J. Fox Foundation
NAMASTE: The Spirit within me honors the Spirit within you.
PD: Parkinson’s Disease
PDSG: Parkinson’s Support Group(s)
PMD: PARKINSON & Movement Disorder Alliance
PSP: Progressive Supranuclear Palsy.
PJ: Phyllis – my wife: SWOMBO (She-Who-Must-Be-Obeyed) A contributor and #1 editor.
PT: Personal trainer Tresha,  including daily in-home exercise assignments for PD.
TCF: The Compassionate Friends (For parents who have experienced the death of a child or sibling.)
WIP: Work in Progress. Writing is my vacation!
YISKA: Navajo for Darkness has passed.  (Also the name of a Navajo Border Collie who barks in Navajo!)

11.30.19: Later in the afternoon: We visited our close friend of 50+ years, Nancy (Goedecke) Thayer at her Celebration of Life party.  She is very much alive! She and Phyllis were co-founders of the La Leche League International in Tucson.

12.01.19: 0500: You did remember to say RABBIT, didn’t you? (I remembered after I put my new chair together and moved it into my office.)

12.02.19: 0520:

Parkinson’s: Speaking of the chair, I had problems putting it together. Every once in a while, my PD rares its head in the form of a surprise tremor. I’ve put chairs like this together many times. They have never taken me two hours. What slowed me down was attempting to insert the Allen wrench into the bolt. I had to use both hands to hold the ranch, which meant that I had to let go of the piece I was attempting to attach. By balancing the parts on a box on my knee, I was finally able to tighten the bolts.

I drove PJ to radiology for her regular bone scan. Afterward, we had a stuffed avocado salad lunch at the Bisbee Breakfast Club .  I took her home and then checked by the Credit Union to replace a compromised credit card.  We watched part of THE VOICE and went to bed.

10.03.19: 0600: I can’t believe I slept this long.  We both had too many wake-ups last night.  Day-um!  Dragon isn’t working.

Many of you remember Lucy Jones, Ph.D. Associate Pastor at St. Frances in the Foothills.  Here she is in Hawaii looking healthy after surgery.

12.04.19:0500: Light rain @50º. PT this morning at 0745. Much stretching. Tresha gave me an early birthday present: a  knit cap with Christmas lights.

12.05.19:  0500: 50º with a high of 72º

Below: Looking north-east to Pusch Ridge.

Meeting with some TCF parents @ Lil’ Anthony’s. After a few years, we can smile again. (For us, it’s been 22 years.).

Carl Luikart, Guy Walter, Dick Davis, Larry Tilton, Sam & Phyllis Turner

A couple of hours of solitude with Virginia in our back yard. Our peach tree is preparing for winter.


Perfect visit with you, Sam! An afternoon where we listened , explored and enjoyed the quiet.
A peachy day with peach leaves falling. It’s good to have a friend in you…50 years our friendship and you
a mere 85 on Monday.
Happy Birthday Sam!!!
Love, Virginia
Look for the hummer!

Found it!

Virginia saw so many objects that I have ignored for many years.  I must slow down and observe.

Virginia gave us a lipstick plant.

Above: Purple Sage among Peachtree leaves

A Storyteller Doll by an unknown  middle-school student. (1980)

Sam’s seven-minute self-portrait.

Sam’s Three-Hour Sculpture. (1979).


A robust bust.

12.06.19: 0500: You may remember The Art of Dying Well; A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life by Katie Butler.

There’s another book just out that speaks to the beginning of life each day:

 The Thought of You: The Art of Being Alive! by Rosie Wolf Williams.

I have the e-book. I have ordered the hardback for my library.

Besides this, if you haven’t already done so, go see the movie: A BEAUTIFUL DAY IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD. About Mr. Rogers.

These two books and the movie could be life-enhancing for you.

THANKS for all your responses.

Upcoming Events:

The Compassionate Friends Worldwide Candle Lighting unites family and friends around the globe in lighting candles for one hour to honor the memories of the sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren who left too soon. As candles are lit at 7:00 pm local time, hundreds of thousands of persons commemorate and honor their memory.

Now believed to be the most extensive mass candle lighting on the globe, the 23rd annual Worldwide Candle Lighting, a gift to the bereavement community from The Compassionate Friends, creates a virtual 24-hour wave of light as it moves from time zone to time zone. TCF’s WCL started in the United States in 1997 as a small internet observance but has since swelled in numbers as word has spread throughout the world of the remembrance. Hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held, and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes as families gather in quiet memory of children who have died, but will never be forgotten.

Every year you are invited to post a message in the Remembrance Book, which will be available during the event at TCF’s national website. The Remembrance Book will be open to posting a message Sunday, December 1st, through Monday, December 9th. Photos can be posted on our Worldwide Candle Lighting Facebook page.

Our Tucson Chapter will participate in the National Candle Lighting in Remembrance of all our Children at the Children’s Memorial Park off Oracle Rd. on Sunday, December 8, starting at 7pm. Come early and bring a jacket! You can also bring a photo or other memento to display.

The Compassionate Friends National:

Online Support information is available on the National Compassionate Friends Website at There are over 26 private Facebook groups available for parents, grandparents, and siblings. There are also “virtual chapters” through an online support community (live chats).

Visit for more information and to register.

Remembrance Cards  In order to receive remembrance cards during your loved one’s birthday month and the death anniversary month, you must individually sign-up, with your complete information, for the memorial book located on the national website found under the “Find Support” tab after clicking on “To The Newly Bereaved” (      

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